Spoo Junky, My Wife

[Spoo Junky]

Just to jump on the bandwagon I have a very sore upper back which is not contagious so you are safe around me. Went on the trails near my house and must have got a chill on my back. Last week it wasn't so bad just annoying, but we woke up Monday morning to find our house was only around 10 deg. C. (not sure, maybe 40 deg. F?) because the line from our oil tank froze. Now I've got my heating pad, Tylenol and Robaxacet going... sigh.... we all must be getting old

Hi Everyone,

This is Spoo Junky's husband, it is with great sadness that I bring news of her passing, Feb 21st. The message above was the second last post she'd ever done here. Who knew one month almost to the day that she would be gone. She wanted me to pass on that she enjoyed her time here discussing B5 and she'll miss the conversations.

Her favourite moments of B5 are in her signature, and "But in Purple.... I'm STUNNING!!" and everyone wore Purple at the funeral in some form or another. I would also like to add that I hope she saw that I brought the JMS autographed "Never Surrender Dreams" picture to the memorial as well, in addition to some of her talented artwork.

The back pain she was experiencing was cancer. We had no idea, and just thought it was aches and pains and that time of year. There were cancer cells in the spinal fluid, which I know now is a quick killer. I miss her dearly, I'm sure some of you will too. I'll be checking back every know and again, to see some of her older posts - a time capsule of sorts. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it was one of her many requests and I'm glad that I got to share them with her as I completed them - except this one.

Eerily this was her very last post, considering what she'd gone through:

"Flesh is transitory, flesh is a prison, flesh is .. an instrument. Flesh can be replaced. And flesh does as it's told. Or they will become most annoyed."

[Jan]

Dear SJ's Husband,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss and sad for myself. She'll definitely be missed around here and I thank you for letting us know. Please know that you're always welcome here.

Be gentle with yourself during this time. Please feel free to PM me if you'd care to talk about SJ and/or your loss.

Kind regards,
Jan

[Jan]

I suppose I could add this to my post above but...I dunno, this feels better.

I was just thinking of the weekend that SJ and I met in person, when I went up to Toronto for JMS' appearance at FanExpo 2009. It was a really great time and due in large part to her.

We met up outside the convention center, picked up our badges and wandered around. Had lunch, and you'd never have known that we'd only just met for the first time. Not once, but *twice* she camped out in front of the area where JMS was going to be speaking or signing and made sure that we were first in line. And on top of everything, she'd brought a book for JMS to autograph that she gave to me to auction off for a fund-raising effort I was doing.

We'd wanted to go to the top of the CN tower but I begged off because I wasn't feeling well. I'll always regret not having that memory now.

I'm sorry that JMS wasn't able to make it to Toronto last year so we could have met up again and I'll certainly miss her posts in the Silly B5 Quote thread and talking about the script books.

Farewell, SJ. I hope you met up with Rick and Andreas beyond the Rim and have a good time until we might meet again.

"To absent friends, in memory still bright."

Your friend,
Jan

[Spoo Junky]

She had that effect on everyone. Even the receptionist at her dentist office cried when I mentioned the news. Had to cancel her appointment and they asked where she'd been the past while.

Thanks for the kind words, dealing in my own way by scanning in old pictures of her and remembering the trips we took together. Mexico in 96, across canada in 97, Aruba in 99, long break then Paris in 2005, Ireland in 2009. We were supposed to go to Cuba this year, because it'd been too long between trips. But we didn't make it She wanted to go before it changed too much once the doors opened for more tourism. At least she though she was going, three weeks later she passed away.

Regards,

John

[DGTWoodward]

How very sorry I am to hear this sad news.

I always enjoyed SJ's posts. They were always interesting and informative. Wow! I don't quite know what to say except that these forums are now a less intersting place for her passing.

I am sorry if this seems a bit disjointed, I am very shocked. I can only offer my deepest sympathies.

All the best to yourself and your family at this most difficult of times.

Regards,

Daron Woodward
Warwick
U.K.

[Jonas]

My condolences. I cannot imagine anyone going through anything more difficult than this.

Remember that love is the only thing that ignores the second law of thermodynamics.

[vakie]

Very sad to hear this, you have my condolences.
She will definitely be missed..

[I, Zathras]

I am very sorry to hear your sad news. I'm relatively new to this site, but I remember her comments due to her picture, and I must say they all made me smile or think.

My condolonces to both you and your family during this very difficult time.

[SmileOfTheShadow]

I'm very sorry to hear that. I've been involved in discussions with your wife on this forum for years. She will most definitely be missed.

[WorkerCaste]

Words fail at a time like this. People we have never met face to face become a part of our lives without our even realizing it. I can't say I knew her, but I can say that she has touched my life with her thoughts and words. Maybe not in a dramatic way, but a real way nonetheless. "Absent friends" in deed. My thoughts are with you in your time of loss.

Steve

[frulad]

My condolences.

[babylonlurker]

My condolences

To absent friends, in memory still bright

Thank you for letting us know.

[Spoo Junky]

Thanks for the kind words everyone. Talking and hearing from those she's spoken with helps the healing.

[I love Lyta]

My goodness! My heartfelt condolences!
Learning about someone one kind of knew passing reminds one of how transitory life really can be.
I know it might sound odd to some people but really do feel that way: As long as she has her place in your heart and our memory she is never truely gone.

[Anders]

My condolences, sorry for your loss.